There is a special beast. Doesn’t bark – bites – in soul to the booth. Quiet alien, evil genius, the black sheep… And his name is the sound guy. Or otherwise – a person with a sound vector. Walks like a zombie Apocalypse: a look inside yourself. The house, which is empty. The owners left and the light is not extinguished. Anybody home?
You telling him about love, about plans for a future together until he’s staring into your computer. Crucified, words choose. He turns around, looks at you like first time at all he saw, and ask: “what did You say?” Leave to eat in the fridge – will forget. Asks to buy something – will not hear. “Didn’t you say? I have not heard!” How to communicate with this?
No wonder his mom complained that he since the childhood like this – “not like everyone else”. Other children will get to eat – run with glowing eyes. And this OREM-OREM – netherese. Fit get up close and in my ear shout: “Misha, dinner’s ready!” And then, the bastard pretends not to hear. As if specially bring to a white heat. In school the teachers complain: sits on the lessons of catching crows, ask for something – as if from heaven falls to the ground. “Huh? Who? I? What?” You do what galaxy you’re in, Misha?
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Big_Damn_Hero all posts by I was Recently asked to work with a boy of ten, who all his free time spends on computer games. If he deny, maybe a day not to eat, with their parents not to talk. One day after the ban was a call from the school, reported that the son is truant for a week. It turned out that he walks instead of school to the Internet cafe to play. Parents went to an Internet cafe, did not let his son in school time, to limit the money. The boy began to steal, to take, to go to another cafe.
Began to look for the reason. Spent in the house a couple of days, looked how is the communication between parents and child.
Comes home from school, immediately behind a computer. Sometimes at the insistence of parents is to first lessons, but with an emphasis on speed and not quality. In the morning before school goes to check out the game. Lunch at the computer causing constant skirmishes with the parents.
Asked him to eat at the table once. He agreed. As per table nchego happens, the TV is on in the background all eat in silence or asking trite “As success in school.”
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In many modern families is about the lack of communication . Dad and mom are constantly busy. Each to his own. A child left to himself. And only when it negatively affects the influence of the street, the parent wonder: Where is it? After all in the family all is well. There is no conflict. Excluded scandals. But there is a cold indifference. There is no interest in the upbringing of children, communicate with them, timely praise. The only thing is education, this is the control over the ate of bad timing, did the lessons. And the child needs to communicate, in conversations with adults . It is important to have shown a sincere interest, had understood him, he wants parents to consider first and foremost friends. And it should be able to.
It is very important to instill confidence in the correctness of their views, in case of an error – tactfully to correct, but in any case not to offend; the coincidence of the views of the child and the adult – be sure to praise.
You can not give the child to feel weak. Produced an inferiority complex, lack of confidence in their strength. It will have on family life. Dangerous and back – the belief in the exclusivity of abilities. While parents help, people cope. Embarked on an independent path, Continue reading