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A Couple of questions about books on education and psychology of children


Question 1: I recommend the book of Joyce brothers here (well, most of that on TV broadcasts), but the name unfortunately I do not remember, said there was something about miss Bock either inside the book or in the title. Maybe someone knows what is this book? And where can it free then download. )

Question 2: where possible, again for free download the book simultaneously “to Communicate with the child, how?”

There and the book’s title, and abstract to her, and cover photo, and even a couple of chapters to read.

About Simultaneously. The book is very good to read and it is definitely worth it. Not without reason she comes to mind as the first Association on the phrase “Books about parenting”. Roughly as “the poet – Pushkin”, “part of the face – nose,” etc.))))

What I like about her?

First, it is well written and with a big, sincere sympathy to the children and parents.

Secondly, it is written very logically, reasonably and consistently, and also based on a serious theory and practice. Raised issue (how to hear the child, how to increase the chance to be heard by the child, how to set boundaries in relationships with children, how to resolve conflicts, etc.) are covered in detail and comprehensively.

Thirdly, it has a strong practical focus. Clearly explains what to do, how to do, when to do and why to do. Describes the typical mistakes parents (including errors when using the considered techniques and ways of correcting these errors.

What to me in this book is not enough?

First, descriptions of the art of active listening “with a human face” (this, other, described in the book, no such claims). If used on an “As is written – and play”, it turns out (especially at first) quite ridiculous and unnatural. Especially depressing it looks on the background of puppy enthusiasm (absolutely not in vain, I note in parentheses that are around her are getting a divorce. I would have seemed more appropriate if it were explained the principles that underlie this technology, and was invited to prisposobit its under the style of communication adopted in each family.

Secondly (and this claim is much more serious), I don’t like the way this book is written about unconditional love for a child. Supposedly, this is something that should be – and that’s it! Those parents who have it for some reason does not work (or they seem to not work), no recommendation is given. Just listed the reasons why this could happen. In the end the picture is quite sad: not loving the child, the mother has done wrong, and how to do so, to become “good” – is unclear (especially with the prevailing opinions on the topic of “lawless heart”). And multiply complexes and dissatisfaction with the mothers, and so badly sensenich and smartbunny public opinion for the “blogomonster”. To deal with this, unfortunately, had repeatedly, and simultaneously with its “unconditional love” was mentioned as one of the powerful generators of guilt. (