Information for parents
Experts say that physical punishment:
1.Teach your child a lesson of violence.
2.They violate the absolute confidence which is needed by every child that he is loved.
3.They contain a lie: by pretending that solve pedagogical problems, the parents, thus, frustrate the child his anger. An adult beating a child just because he was beaten as a child.
4.Physical punishment teaches children to accept the credibility of contradictory evidence: “I hit you for your own good”. A child’s brain stores this information.
5.They cause anger and desire for revenge, a desire that remains displaced, and becomes apparent only much later.
6.They destroy the susceptibility to their own suffering and compassion for others, limiting, thus, the child’s ability to know ourselves and the world.
What lesson from this makes the child?
1.The child does not deserve respect.
2.Good can be learned through punishment (it usually teaches a child the desire to punish, in turn, other).
3.Suffering does not need to overreact, should be ignored (this is dangerous for the immune system).
4.Violence is a manifestation of love (on this soil grow many perversions).
5.Denial of feelings is normal and healthy phenomenon
6.From adults no protection.
How is manifested displaced anger in children?
1.Taunting the weak and defenseless.
3.Humiliation girls, symbolizing mother.
4.Bad attitude to the mentor.
5.A selection of videos and games, giving the opportunity to experience again supplanted by feelings of rage and anger
1.SET A GOOD EXAMPLE. Threats, and Lasher, psychological pressure, insults, etc. rarely improve the situation. Your child takes a sample of Your behavior and will learn from You how to handle anger without the use of force. Set boundaries. Limitations it teaches self-discipline and how to control mutual emotions based on nonviolence.
2.BECOME A FREQUENT VISITOR TO THE KINDERGARTEN. If Your child has any problems that cause him depression and causes of low self-esteem, go to kindergarten – INTERVENE! The staff of the kindergarten exists to help children grow and succeed.
3.IF YOU DON’T DEFENDER YOUR CHILD, THEN WHO ARE YOU? The consequences if the child feels himself a failure, can be expressed in violent actions on his part: fighting, destruction of property, cruelty and even self-destruction.
4.TELL the KIDS ABOUT the VIOLENCE THAT is SHOWN ON TV, not just turn off the TV. Explain to them that most of the violence shown in the movies is a product designed to entertain, to excite, to keep the viewer in suspense. And what it does not mean that such a model of behaviour need to apply in my life.
5.We CANNOT UNDERESTIMATE the IMPORTANCE of the WORDS “I LOVE YOU”. Children of any age require the consent, the kisses, the hugs, the friendly Pat on the shoulder. They want to hear ” I’m proud of you!”
6.If You or someone in Your family feels lonely, unloved, hopeless or You have a problem with drugs or alcohol – look for help. It is believed that more than half of all violent acts committed using alcohol or drugs.
PROUD OF YOUR DECISION TO TAKE THE HELP. IT IS A DIFFICULT DECISION, BUT IT REFLECTS YOUR MATURITY. THIS WILL HELP PREVENT THE VIOLENCE. TO PROTECT YOUR CHILD.
The successful formation of a child, its full development is largely dependent on various factors, but the family influence on a person of any age is incomparable in importance to anything else . The family influence is manifested in the creation and maintenance of certain conditions that contribute to optimal child development in contemporary society. It is in the family occur the formation and development of the human personality: laid the necessary skills, formed the character, gain the experience of communicating with other people.
The influence of parents on a child’s development is enormous. Children growing up in an atmosphere of love and understanding, have less problems related to health, learning difficulties in school, socializing with peers, and Vice versa, as a rule, the violation of the parent-child relationship leads to the formation of various psychological problems and complexes. In General, modern parent-child relationships are complex and the General trend in the level of society’s neglect of parental responsibilities. Particularly disturbing is the frequent violence in the family, to the detriment of physical and mental health of the child, his welfare .
The responsibilities of perpetrators of maltreatment of children, in accordance with the legislation of the Russian Federation.
In the Russian legislation there are several types of liability of the perpetrators of the cruel treatment of the child.
Disciplinary liability may be subject to officials whose duties include providing education, content, teaching children who hide or neglect of the facts of cruel treatment of children.
Persons who disregard the basic needs of the child, not acting for the maintenance and education of minors, subject to administrative liability in accordance with the Code of the Russian Federation about administrative offences (article 5.35). Consideration of cases under the said article refers to the competence of the commissions on minors ‘ Affairs and protection of their rights.
Cruel treatment of a child may serve as a basis for bringing the th parent( guardians) to justice in accordance with the family law.
Example: termination of parental rights( article 69 of the Family code), the restriction of parental rights (article 73 of the Family code), the removal of a child under the imminent threat of a child’s life or health
(article 77 of the Family code of the Russian Federation)
Russian criminal law provides for liability of persons for all kinds of physical and sexual abuse of children, as well as on a number of articles for mental abuse and neglect of the basic needs of children, neglect about them.
Examples: article 111(deliberate causing of heavy harm to health),
article 112 (deliberate infliction of moderate bodily harm), article 113(causing heavy or average weight of harm to health in the heat of passion) ,with T. 115(deliberate causing of a little harm to health), article 116(beating),article 117(torture), article 118(causing heavy or average gravity harm to health on imprudence), article 131 (rape), article 132(violent acts of sexual character), article 134 (sexual intercourse and other actions of sexual character with the person. under the age of fourteen), article 125 (leaving in danger), article 124 (failure to render aid to a sick person), article 156(default of duties on education of minors), article 157(malicious evasion from payment of means for the maintenance of children), article 110 (incitement to suicide).
“The child must be protected from all forms of neglect, cruelty and exploitation”. Principle 9 of the Declaration of the rights of the child (20 November 1959)
Every child has the right to live and grow up in a family where love and care about him!
Don’t be indifferent!
Children should not be strangers.