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If the child is lying.

You accidentally discovered that your child is lying to you. And he lied to you not once, but doing it regularly. You are outraged by his lie, but at the same time confused: surely something is wrong if the child is lying. Try to understand that children lie and what to do with it.

When the three year old says that he’s not spilled water or broke a Cup, that’s no lie. The child knows he’s done something, what mother would be upset. This is an attempt to repair the damage with words, because little kids really believe in its power.

In this case, it is a reflection of magical thinking kids. Saying “not I“, he believes in his words. If the child sees that the mother didn’t scold him for every unintentional transgression, he will not need the words “it’s not me“.

Talking about the day, the child suddenly begins to add fantastic details. It also is not a lie and fantasy. Saying this, the child may himself to believe in his fantasy.

The child naturally comes up with imagined events during play. It’s a harmless fantasy. They can even be useful for the development of creative abilities of the child.

What is the difference between lies and fantasies? Psychologists believe that the real lie is the one uttered consciously, in order to obtain some benefit.If the child is lying. You accidentally discovered that your child is lying to you. And he lied to you not once, but doing it regularly. You are outraged by his lie, but at the same time confused: surely something is wrong if the child is lying. Try to understand that children lie and what to do with it. When the three year old says that he’s not spilled water or broke a Cup, that’s no lie.

The child knows he’s done something, what mother would be upset. This is an attempt to repair the damage with words, because little kids really believe in its power. In this case, it is a reflection of magical thinking kids. Saying “not I“, he believes in his words. If the child sees that the mother didn’t scold him for every unintentional transgression, he will not need the words “it’s not me“. Talking about the day, the child suddenly begins to add fantastic details. It also is not a lie and fantasy. Saying this, the child may himself to believe in his fantasy. The child naturally comes up with imagined events during play. It’s a harmless fantasy. They can even be useful for the development of creative abilities of the child.

What is the difference between lies and fantasies? Psychologists believe that the real lie is the one uttered consciously, in order to obtain some benefit.

EliteBook lying, what are the reasons The child wants to be better, to be admired, but it fails to do so. Then he begins to talk about how good he is, his strength, courage, dexterity, etc. Although parents and other adults understand that it is not true, he continues to brag. Such a lie of the child often suggests that the child is not enough love and affection from parents. It is an occasion to think about their relationship to the child. The child needs to explain that love him the way he is.

And will love in any case. We need to talk about what each person has skills and they need to be developed. In this lies the potentiality for personal development. Just need to help the child to show their best qualities. Similarly, with excessive expectations of the parents from the child. They want the child and was an excellent student, and engage in sports, and generally did everything better than other children. As a result of comparing their child with other children, without considering its abilities and characteristics of the organism. The child starts to lie, to explain to the parents why not fulfilled their hopes. Deuce in the diary, because the teacher finds fault. Could not score a goal because he was pushed. And the boy next door gets a’s, because he’s a brownnosing Snitch.

Parents should understand that it is impossible to demand from the child too much. And remember yourself at that age. Often parents feel that children need to achieve what failed them. It’s a way of parents to assert themselves at the expense of the child. Before you bring the baby higher requirements, good to remember the saying:From osinki will not be born orange“. If mom and dad have never been on friendly terms with sports, it is unlikely the child will be a champion. The child is afraid of punishment for any misconduct. Let this punishment, and not physical, and not even the deprivation of his trips, computer and other pleasures. But agree, to withstand tedious notation about torn shirts or soiled notebook was hard and adults. So the notebook is just thrown away in the trash, and the shirt hidden among dirty Laundry, cooked in the wash.

Then she and her mother were surprised that the washing machine tears up things. The child, especially in adolescence, looking to prove themselves among their peers, improve their social status. There are various heroic deeds like Smoking, drinking of alcoholic beverages. And lies. Lies about influential parents and other relatives, about allegedly committed the acts, on the available values. All designed to attract the interest of others to the child.

Permanent bans parents for any reason give rise to false with the intent to circumvent these prohibitions. You cannot go for a walk with a friend — I would say that going to that section. You cannot come home after 9 o’clock in the evening — come up with a broken bus. In the best case the child will keep silent about the violation of the prohibition, and if the truth will lie about the reasons. The worst case is a pathological lie. People can not lie, for this lie. It requires the work of the psychologist. Fortunately, such cases are very rare.

 

 

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