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The Child is afraid to answer lessons


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“Psychological kinesiology in working with children”

If your child is afraid to answer the lesson

“… asked You today in physics? You last me the entire paragraph wonderfully told. It’s a shame, because you could get a well-deserved top five!

– No, I did not answer.

– Did you raise your hand? You really knew the material!

If I was called to the blackboard and asked something else, and I wouldn’t be able to answer. On the contrary, well, that “carried””.

Probably, many parents do not just upset due to the fact that the child, knowing the training material, trying not to respond to the lesson, while the teacher will not ask him. Sometimes that is saturated with interesting facts essay or report also ignored the teacher and classmates. Why child, instead of annoyance, frustration and resentment, relieved, and at other times, also prefers the “sit” behind a Desk than brilliantly to answer, to tell a lot to the guys and get a well-deserved good mark?

Reasons that make a child afraid to answer the lesson, there may be several. There are two main: the shyness and fear of looking stupid, funny, boring to others. If the teacher tries to maintain a shy child, gives ample time to respond, feels an inner need of children in the attention of the teacher, then the child will be easier to raise your hand and be called to the Board. A trusting and relaxed atmosphere in the class in the classroom and among peers at recess also has a powerful support for shy guys.

9 years old child can become extremely shy, very worrying because of external changes, changing voices. The child may suffer because once received a negative experience answer at the blackboard, when something did not work. Not self-confident children tend to see in any business insurmountable obstacles for yourself, and so, as wonderfully prepared for the lesson, they are afraid to raise their hand for fear that they will fail to concentrate, it is interesting to discuss or answer questions.

If on the basis of unwillingness to answer the Board is anxiety or fear of being unsuccessful and to receive a negative assessment of not only teachers, but also classmates, parents and teachers must work together to try to convince your child to try at least once. The task of parents to help the child during this time to prepare so well the experience of the response from the Board was positive and the result would satisfy the child. You can pre-request help and support of classmates, taking advantage of their experience.

If a child feels his competence, if respected guys, he is much less worried about what will look silly in a particular learning situation. Children who are not afraid to answer and ask questions in class, freer both school and outside of school.

Less capable guys rarely show initiative in lessons, as they consider themselves “not smart enough and developed”. The task of parents to help the child to find that a subject or series of subjects, in which he will feel successful, to deal with the weaknesses and strengths of the child and try to provide maximum support in the “not given” objects. After all, learning motivation is not just about the intellectual abilities of the student, or how interesting the teacher gives training material. Here important and personal interest of the child and parents, and its internal self-esteem and self-esteem, which contribute to the formation of the desire to expand and complement their knowledge.

How you can help the child not to be afraid to respond to the lesson?

Try to rehearse the whole answer at home, tell me child, where better to start your story, and what ’ s finish. Become for him a true listener, discuss together the most interesting facts from the prepared material in advance, to calculate the time required to respond. Teach your child to logically build any monological speech. Support any initiative of the child: “Me today the teacher said that you told wonderful dialogue when he asked you. I’m so proud of you! Perhaps if you raised your hand, you’d feel even happier!” Discuss with the child the situation of increasing anxiety as the teacher brings to the Board one at a time. Lose at home “Normal lesson” that the child felt and realized that to answer for yourself at the beginning of class – much easier than worrying and worrying, for a long time to wait, cause the teacher or not. Be aware of oral assignments on the subjects, give any assistance in finding additional material for a more vivid and interesting presentations of the child. Try to determine what more afraid of the child and, if possible, to solve this particular problem. The course material was repeated several times at home, with additional interesting information will help the child to believe that he’s not afraid to tell it from the Board.

How to say no?

“I expect of you, so that tomorrow you raised your hand and volunteered to the Board!” Such phrases You will only deepen the fear of the child when speaking in public to the existence of even greater anxiety or psychosomatic pain stomach, head, etc. “If tomorrow you can get up myself, I’ll go to the teacher!” the Child needs to see in parents and teachers, especially friends or at least allies. You should not intimidate the child. On the contrary, try to support him: “For me it is very important that you not afraid to speak and respond, even if not always correctly. If this is hard for you, we together with the teacher can help you!” “I thought you’d always be first in everything, and you’re afraid of raising your hand!” high expectations and requirements, and the inability to implement them can contribute to the development of feelings of inferiority and low self-esteem in the child. The fear of being “bad” the student makes a child to endure setback after setback, which then may contribute to the permanent stay of a child in a stressful condition.