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Rules of behavior on the Playground: what to do if greedy child

As I wrote in a previous column, we have, finally, come warm days, and this means that the concentration of children on playgrounds has increased dramatically at times. Moved outside and toys that serious, there is a daily battle. How to prevent fights in the sandbox? What to do if a child does not share toys . All you need to follow the rules of behavior on the Playground .

Rules of behavior on the Playground

1. Don’t stand aside

The atmosphere on the Playground is entirely dependent on the parents. The kids behavior is largely determined by how the adults will communicate with each other, react to the actions of other children, arrange play space, as will behave in a conflict situation.

2. Toys in the sandbox – shared

Have you noticed that the presence of other toys automatically makes their unattractive? I have realized that their toys (bucket, shovel, crayons, ball and other attributes) we make not to play themselves, but in order to make equivalent exchange. Simply put, if the Theme is digging the sand is unclear whose shovel, I’m calm – someone also busy with his shovel.

That is why you should not make on the street are expensive or easily broken toys, that is, those that are particularly mind losing. You will look like a real meanie if you don’t want to share, and then starts to wail: “help! I have a greedy baby, what to do?” Although to this question I answer, only a bit later.

3. Large toys: before taking, you need to ask permission

Usually after playing in the sandbox, kid rushes to some interesting machine on the rope or bike. If there is a home, be sure to ask permission, especially if you do not have the same subject. Well, if no one is around, just let the child touch the handle, the alarm, etc. explain that is what is intended. Tell me what you don’t know whose bike, so baby not to ride on it.

4. Conflicts to be

To quarrel and to share toys on the Playground – it is absolutely normal. Thus children learn to interact with each other, acquire the skills of behavior in teams, learn to defend their rights and to give in, to compromise and reconcile.

5. Children up to three years always necessary to help to understand

In the first three years of life children are not yet able to independently solve a conflict peacefully. If you do not interfere with the “division of property”, the children will understand what is right. It is the responsibility of adults to teach children how to share toys, how to assert their rights, if someone takes away a toy, how to jointly own one thing.

Children learn by the example of adults, so you should be examples of civility and diplomacy. Especially important is the interference of parents in “emergency” situations: the fight, throwing sand and stones and so on.

6. Children after three years of giving a try to understand yourself

In this way they learn to communicate and behave in a team. If a peaceful way to solve the problem failed, then you have to intervene again to explain the rules of behavior on the Playground. Listen carefully to both sides, don’t get up anyone’s side, just ask your view on the situation is and some ways to overcome it.

7. Do not scold other people’s children

You wouldn’t like it if abused your child. All parents have different views on parenting. Your task is to look after her baby. If the child is very bad, talk to his mom or dad, regardless of who he goes for walks.

Not to criticize, but to explain, to make a remark to someone else’s child can be in the case where there is no nearby his parents, i.e. those who could have stopped the kid. This applies to situations in which a bully can harm your child or other children. Nothing bad to comment there, you may even help the boy or girl to learn the rules of behavior on the Playground.

8. Do not insist if the child does not want to share toys

This rule is particularly appropriate when the toy belongs to your kid. Perhaps this piece is dear to him, right at the moment or he just does not want to share with a child, which he found unpleasant.

Baby is important to learn to assert ownership. You don’t want to grow up to be a man who can’t say “no”? Then give him an opportunity to decide whether to give a toy or not. If he still doesn’t want to part with the thing, don’t you call him greedy, better pay attention to its ability to defend their rights and their property.

9. With someone else’s toy will still have to part

Many parents ask, but if the child is greedy, what to do in this case? Another toy will still have to give. Children up to three years, it’s hard to explain, you have to distract, inspire something interesting. But after three children should be taught respect for others ‘ property. By the way, rules apply for other children: if someone else’s kid doesn’t want to give your toy, when you go home, try to switch his interest to another shovel bucket or politely explain that it’s not his toy, if the child is already big.

If you can help to grasp your son or daughter these rules of conduct on the Playground, he or she will be easier to fit in, to adapt to the children’s society.

What do you do if the child does not share toys?

P. S. We will soon be in the nursery furniture, I will definitely write a post and show pictures of our children, don’t miss out .