Question 1: I recommend the book of Joyce brothers here (well, most of that on TV broadcasts), but the name unfortunately I do not remember, said there was something about miss Bock either inside the book or in the title. Maybe someone knows what is this book? And where can it free then download. )
Question 2: where possible, again for free download the book simultaneously “to Communicate with the child, how?”
There and the book’s title, and abstract to her, and cover photo, and even a couple of chapters to read.
About Simultaneously. The book is very good to read and it is definitely worth it. Not without reason she comes to mind as the first Association on the phrase “Books about parenting”. Roughly as “the poet – Pushkin”, “part of the face – nose,” etc.))))
What I like about her?
First, it is well written and with a big, sincere sympathy to the children and parents.
Secondly, it is written very logically, reasonably and consistently, and also based on a serious theory and practice. Raised issue (how to hear the child, how to increase the chance to be heard by the child, how to set boundaries in relationships with children, Continue reading
Psychological trauma, such as lack of attention, lack of love given to the parents of the child, as well as other problems of a young child in the family are the main causes and roots of future psychological problems. If this person wants to understand the reasons why one or another psychological problem exists in his life, he will have to go back and to remember his difficult childhood.
Few can argue that his childhood was completely cloudless and happy. As a rule, most of us in a small child faced with a lack of attention . pay older, have experienced a lack of love and rejection of the very fact of its existence. All this inevitably contributed to the origin of those or other psychological trauma in children, which later resulted in specific psychological problems.
Man, being born, needs main things – unconditional love and infinite attention. Few people are born into extremely wealthy families. And few whose parents show unconditional love to their children. On the contrary, the prevailing part of the families (judging by the experience of Russia, it is about ninety percent of the total number according to unofficial statistics) – unsuccessful . The problems of a small child in such families are diverse: it can be single-parent families, Continue reading
Experts say that physical punishment:
1.Teach your child a lesson of violence.
2.They violate the absolute confidence which is needed by every child that he is loved.
3.They contain a lie: by pretending that solve pedagogical problems, the parents, thus, frustrate the child his anger. An adult beating a child just because he was beaten as a child.
4.Physical punishment teaches children to accept the credibility of contradictory evidence: “I hit you for your own good”. A child’s brain stores this information.
5.They cause anger and desire for revenge, a desire that remains displaced, and becomes apparent only much later.
6.They destroy the susceptibility to their own suffering and compassion for others, limiting, thus, the child’s ability to know ourselves and the world.
What lesson from this makes the child?
1.The child does not deserve respect.
2.Good can be learned through punishment (it usually teaches a child the desire to punish, in turn, other).
3.Suffering does not need to overreact, should be ignored (this is dangerous for the immune system).
4.Violence is a manifestation of love (on this soil grow many perversions).
5.Denial of feelings is normal and healthy phenomenon
6.From adults no protection.
How is manifested Continue reading