In modern time, the computer is firmly entrenched in our lives, and today, to imagine the existence without a computer simply unrealistic. Practically every home has is a device that is used in different ways: for work, for study and for entertainment. But in addition to significantly facilitate our lives, the computer brings a range of problems. Often, the children and the computer are one. Moreover, it can be not only desktop, but also iPad or mobile phone. Teenagers abandoned the game in the fresh air, began to move less and spend more time in front of PC, lead a sedentary life. Company computer characters they are attracted to much more than real friends. These are the games for children on computer and regular communication in social networks leads subsequently to a computer addiction. That is, the virtual world replaces the world of real teenager.
Most computer addiction affects children insecure, closeted experiencing some difficulties in communicating with peers, by nature shy and having low self-esteem. The game allows them to escape reality, fulfill their desires, to feel strong, courageous, armed and experience brand new emotions. In the virtual world can “make yourself” the way you want: change your gender and age, Continue reading
Childhood fears – what is it? How do they work? How to help your child cope with them? Where is the line between an age characteristic and pathological fear, when you look for help? These and many other questions are often of concern to parents of children of preschool age.
Fear is one of the main emotions that signal about the threat to the welfare, health, human life; fear is not always a symptom of nervous or mental disease. From the point of view of human evolution, it plays a protective and educational role, contributing to the knowledge of the outside world. In the development of the child’s fear is also a way of separating their own “I” from all foreign and dangerous .
All children’s fears can be divided into two groups: “age, compulsory” and “purchased, the optional” . Under “age” is proposed to understand the fears caused by the patterns of development of the child’s psyche. For example, one-year old child is afraid to release the mother from view. This is because children of this age the concept of time is very vague. They can hardly imagine how much it’s two hours, three days, a month or a year. And if mom and dad disappear from sight, even for a very short time – that for the child Continue reading
Desire love your child, to protect him from anxiety, to create a sense of security and the desire to constantly delight – it is the natural expression of the maternal instinct. In the first years of life the baby’s parents, both physically and psychologically, so mom and dad feel a great responsibility for everything that happens to him.
Often, however, love is inherent in man and woman by nature in relation to her child, becomes a dangerous border, and then mom and dad, consciously or not, begin to dominate the baby, and the baby turns into a little tyrant, exploiting the weaknesses of loved ones as a tool of manipulation over them. Overprotection and desire to fulfill all the whims of a child affects him negatively, so you must set some rules. and to demand from the child of their performance.
How to eliminate the blackmail
Almost everything we are sometimes violated certain rules: don’t go to work told the boss that you are sick, but actually just don’t want to go somewhere; we buy a bag of chips and a bottle of coke, even though I promised myself not to eat junk food; don’t brush our teeth before bedtime, because laziness and so on. Then why we say sharp «no» the request of the child with a chocolate bar on the way home or his desire to watch an interesting cartoon that started late?
Many Continue reading