In many modern families is about the lack of communication . Dad and mom are constantly busy. Each to his own. A child left to himself. And only when it negatively affects the influence of the street, the parent wonder: Where is it? After all in the family all is well. There is no conflict. Excluded scandals. But there is a cold indifference. There is no interest in the upbringing of children, communicate with them, timely praise. The only thing is education, this is the control over the ate of bad timing, did the lessons. And the child needs to communicate, in conversations with adults . It is important to have shown a sincere interest, had understood him, he wants parents to consider first and foremost friends. And it should be able to.
It is very important to instill confidence in the correctness of their views, in case of an error – tactfully to correct, but in any case not to offend; the coincidence of the views of the child and the adult – be sure to praise.
You can not give the child to feel weak. Produced an inferiority complex, lack of confidence in their strength. It will have on family life. Dangerous and back – the belief in the exclusivity of abilities. While parents help, people cope. Embarked on an independent path, Continue reading
Mastering wealth of the native language, the small talker knows no taboos — he experiments with sounds, change the order of words in a sentence, invents his own expression. The baby greedily absorbs and tries to understand everything said around him. And very often one day this natural curiosity leads to the fact that the child faces special, non-literary stratum of speech culture.
For normal parents it is always a shock — moreover, that in the mouth of a little boy or girl curses sound particularly rude and ridiculous, so more often children, intuitively sensing the potential threat of these words, and making sure it follows the reactions of the adults start to drink them all the time. How to behave to parents and close relatives?
In Russia the attitude to a reduced vocabulary — whether it preliterature offensive expression or a clean Mat — has always been mixed. Someone thinks that swearing — it’s an integral part of the modern Russian speech, someone does not accept the slightest hint of a bad word to someone, as they say, does not swear obscenities and talking on it. But let the definition of the role of curses in our life scientists. Continue reading
Experts say that physical punishment:
1.Teach your child a lesson of violence.
2.They violate the absolute confidence which is needed by every child that he is loved.
3.They contain a lie: by pretending that solve pedagogical problems, the parents, thus, frustrate the child his anger. An adult beating a child just because he was beaten as a child.
4.Physical punishment teaches children to accept the credibility of contradictory evidence: “I hit you for your own good”. A child’s brain stores this information.
5.They cause anger and desire for revenge, a desire that remains displaced, and becomes apparent only much later.
6.They destroy the susceptibility to their own suffering and compassion for others, limiting, thus, the child’s ability to know ourselves and the world.
What lesson from this makes the child?
1.The child does not deserve respect.
2.Good can be learned through punishment (it usually teaches a child the desire to punish, in turn, other).
3.Suffering does not need to overreact, should be ignored (this is dangerous for the immune system).
4.Violence is a manifestation of love (on this soil grow many perversions).
5.Denial of feelings is normal and healthy phenomenon
6.From adults no protection.
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