In many modern families is about the lack of communication . Dad and mom are constantly busy. Each to his own. A child left to himself. And only when it negatively affects the influence of the street, the parent wonder: Where is it? After all in the family all is well. There is no conflict. Excluded scandals. But there is a cold indifference. There is no interest in the upbringing of children, communicate with them, timely praise. The only thing is education, this is the control over the ate of bad timing, did the lessons. And the child needs to communicate, in conversations with adults . It is important to have shown a sincere interest, had understood him, he wants parents to consider first and foremost friends. And it should be able to.
It is very important to instill confidence in the correctness of their views, in case of an error – tactfully to correct, but in any case not to offend; the coincidence of the views of the child and the adult – be sure to praise.
You can not give the child to feel weak. Produced an inferiority complex, lack of confidence in their strength. It will have on family life. Dangerous and back – the belief in the exclusivity of abilities. While parents help, people cope. Embarked on an independent path, Continue reading
Desire love your child, to protect him from anxiety, to create a sense of security and the desire to constantly delight – it is the natural expression of the maternal instinct. In the first years of life the baby’s parents, both physically and psychologically, so mom and dad feel a great responsibility for everything that happens to him.
Often, however, love is inherent in man and woman by nature in relation to her child, becomes a dangerous border, and then mom and dad, consciously or not, begin to dominate the baby, and the baby turns into a little tyrant, exploiting the weaknesses of loved ones as a tool of manipulation over them. Overprotection and desire to fulfill all the whims of a child affects him negatively, so you must set some rules. and to demand from the child of their performance.
How to eliminate the blackmail
Almost everything we are sometimes violated certain rules: don’t go to work told the boss that you are sick, but actually just don’t want to go somewhere; we buy a bag of chips and a bottle of coke, even though I promised myself not to eat junk food; don’t brush our teeth before bedtime, because laziness and so on. Then why we say sharp «no» the request of the child with a chocolate bar on the way home or his desire to watch an interesting cartoon that started late?
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Experts say that physical punishment:
1.Teach your child a lesson of violence.
2.They violate the absolute confidence which is needed by every child that he is loved.
3.They contain a lie: by pretending that solve pedagogical problems, the parents, thus, frustrate the child his anger. An adult beating a child just because he was beaten as a child.
4.Physical punishment teaches children to accept the credibility of contradictory evidence: “I hit you for your own good”. A child’s brain stores this information.
5.They cause anger and desire for revenge, a desire that remains displaced, and becomes apparent only much later.
6.They destroy the susceptibility to their own suffering and compassion for others, limiting, thus, the child’s ability to know ourselves and the world.
What lesson from this makes the child?
1.The child does not deserve respect.
2.Good can be learned through punishment (it usually teaches a child the desire to punish, in turn, other).
3.Suffering does not need to overreact, should be ignored (this is dangerous for the immune system).
4.Violence is a manifestation of love (on this soil grow many perversions).
5.Denial of feelings is normal and healthy phenomenon
6.From adults no protection.
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