Psychological trauma, such as lack of attention, lack of love given to the parents of the child, as well as other problems of a young child in the family are the main causes and roots of future psychological problems. If this person wants to understand the reasons why one or another psychological problem exists in his life, he will have to go back and to remember his difficult childhood.
Few can argue that his childhood was completely cloudless and happy. As a rule, most of us in a small child faced with a lack of attention . pay older, have experienced a lack of love and rejection of the very fact of its existence. All this inevitably contributed to the origin of those or other psychological trauma in children, which later resulted in specific psychological problems.
Man, being born, needs main things – unconditional love and infinite attention. Few people are born into extremely wealthy families. And few whose parents show unconditional love to their children. On the contrary, the prevailing part of the families (judging by the experience of Russia, it is about ninety percent of the total number according to unofficial statistics) – unsuccessful . The problems of a small child in such families are diverse: it can be single-parent families, Continue reading
Childhood fears – what is it? How do they work? How to help your child cope with them? Where is the line between an age characteristic and pathological fear, when you look for help? These and many other questions are often of concern to parents of children of preschool age.
Fear is one of the main emotions that signal about the threat to the welfare, health, human life; fear is not always a symptom of nervous or mental disease. From the point of view of human evolution, it plays a protective and educational role, contributing to the knowledge of the outside world. In the development of the child’s fear is also a way of separating their own “I” from all foreign and dangerous .
All children’s fears can be divided into two groups: “age, compulsory” and “purchased, the optional” . Under “age” is proposed to understand the fears caused by the patterns of development of the child’s psyche. For example, one-year old child is afraid to release the mother from view. This is because children of this age the concept of time is very vague. They can hardly imagine how much it’s two hours, three days, a month or a year. And if mom and dad disappear from sight, even for a very short time – that for the child Continue reading
About material expectations from marriage, early marriage, life for children and games during Services, says Archpriest Oleg Melnychuk.
As the hierarchy of the classical Patriarchal Church family wife, husband, children, God and love?
— Full-fledged family — that is from a Christian point of view?
Is Patriarchal model: husband, wife, children, over which God.
— What role does love play? This fastening means or way of constructing the hierarchy?
Is this: there is no love, no family. The love between husband and wife, love between children, love between parents and children, love between family and God. If there is no love in the family, there is no God. So it’s not family, it’s just a community of people.
— Children often reproach that parents do not go for them, but love is long gone. Does it make sense to continue such a family for the kids?
— To live for the sake of the children — the question wrong. The family is by definition a husband and a wife and then children. The wife should live with her husband, the husband’s family. Seeing the standard of the Union, the children try and build their relationships as they show mom and dad. The described situation cannot be allowed Continue reading