Childhood fears – what is it? How do they work? How to help your child cope with them? Where is the line between an age characteristic and pathological fear, when you look for help? These and many other questions are often of concern to parents of children of preschool age.
Fear is one of the main emotions that signal about the threat to the welfare, health, human life; fear is not always a symptom of nervous or mental disease. From the point of view of human evolution, it plays a protective and educational role, contributing to the knowledge of the outside world. In the development of the child’s fear is also a way of separating their own “I” from all foreign and dangerous .
All children’s fears can be divided into two groups: “age, compulsory” and “purchased, the optional” . Under “age” is proposed to understand the fears caused by the patterns of development of the child’s psyche. For example, one-year old child is afraid to release the mother from view. This is because children of this age the concept of time is very vague. They can hardly imagine how much it’s two hours, three days, a month or a year. And if mom and dad disappear from sight, even for a very short time – that for the child Continue reading
Experts say that physical punishment:
1.Teach your child a lesson of violence.
2.They violate the absolute confidence which is needed by every child that he is loved.
3.They contain a lie: by pretending that solve pedagogical problems, the parents, thus, frustrate the child his anger. An adult beating a child just because he was beaten as a child.
4.Physical punishment teaches children to accept the credibility of contradictory evidence: “I hit you for your own good”. A child’s brain stores this information.
5.They cause anger and desire for revenge, a desire that remains displaced, and becomes apparent only much later.
6.They destroy the susceptibility to their own suffering and compassion for others, limiting, thus, the child’s ability to know ourselves and the world.
What lesson from this makes the child?
1.The child does not deserve respect.
2.Good can be learned through punishment (it usually teaches a child the desire to punish, in turn, other).
3.Suffering does not need to overreact, should be ignored (this is dangerous for the immune system).
4.Violence is a manifestation of love (on this soil grow many perversions).
5.Denial of feelings is normal and healthy phenomenon
6.From adults no protection.
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From: heart of Steel country
Hello. Writing first time on this forum, I write out of desperation, like many here, I suppose. Please do not judge strictly.
Her husband of 39 years, I’m 25. We were familiar for a long time, but due to some reasons the relationship was formed in late 2010. I knew he like to eat, even once was the year in 2007 approximately. he was at home me and my MCH and we called the nurse to do a drip to him.
When we started Dating, I have put 3 conditions: 1. control of alcohol 2. to put in order the finances 3. to put in order themselves (belly grew).
He readily agreed, I was led, quite frankly, because of alcoholics near not seen, grandfathers drank, but it somehow didn’t concern me too much, lived separately, and one grandfather died last another 20 years of life did not drink at all. The father drank because had seen his drunken father, at least so he says.
Actually no serious plans on his account I had, he already had problems with the Finance crisis, its bungling (mostly). Began to live together. In January 2011 he took a biopsy. The result – cancer stage 1, a very evil form, obivously for 3-4 weeks. I dropped everything and we went for treatment to a nearby town. The treatment Continue reading